Tactics Used by Abusers

USING FAMILY MEMBERS

Magnifies disagreements-misleads family members about the extent and nature of illness/conditions-excludes or denies access to family-forces family to keep secrets-threatens and denies access to grandchildren-leaves grandchildren with grandparent without honoring grandparents needs and wishes

RIDICULES PERSONAL & CULTURAL VALUES

Ridicules personal/cultural values-makes fun of a person’s racial background-sexual preference or ethnic background-entices or forces to lie/commit a crime or do other acts that go against the victim’s value system

ISOLATION

Controls what victim does/whom they see/and where they go-limits time with friends and family-denies access to phone or mail- fails to visit or make contact

USING PRIVILEGE

Treats victim like servant-males all major decisions-ignores needs/wants/desires-undervalues victim’s life experience-takes advantage of community status,i.e. racial/sexual/orientation/gender/economic

FINANCIAL EXPLOITATION

Steals money/titles/or possessions-takes over accounts and bills and spending without permission-abuses a power of attorney-tells elder money is needed to repay drug dealer to stay safe

PHYSICAL ABUSE

Slaps-hits-punches-throws things-burns-chokes-breaks bones-creates hazards-bumps and/or trips-forces unwanted physical activity-pinches/pulls hair/twist limbs-restrains

SEXUAL ABUSE

Makes demeaning remarks about intimate body parts-is rough with intimate body parts during care giving-takes advantage of physical or mental illness to engage in sex-forces sex acts that make victim feel uncomfortable and/or against victim’s wishes/forces victim to watch pornography on television and/or computer

PSYCHOLOGICAL ABUSE

Withholds affection-publicly humiliates or behaves in a condescending manner

EMOTIONAL ABUSE

Humiliates-demeans-ridicules-yells-insults-calls names-degrades-blames-uses silence or profanity

THREATENING

Threatens to leave and never see elder again-threatens to divorce or not divorce-threatens to commit suicide-threatens to institutionalize-abuses or kills pet or prized livestock-destroys or takes property-displays or threatens with weapons

TARGETING VULNERABILITIES

Takes or move walker/wheelchair/glasses/dentures-takes advantage of confusion-makes victim miss medical appointments

NEGLECTING

Denies or creates long waits for/food/heat/care or medication-does not report medical problems-understands but fails to follow medical/therapy or safety recommendations-refuses to dress or dresses inappropriately

DENIES ACCESS TO SPIRITUAL TRADITIONS/EVENTS

Denies access to ceremonial traditions or church-ignores religious traditions-prevents from practicing traditional ceremonies/events

Advocate “JC”

Hi, my name is Julienne Cross. I am an advocate at the Thunder Bird House. I am a peacemaker paralegal. I have designed this site in an effort to reach out to victim’s of crimes such as rape, date rape, assault, sexual assault, child sexual assault and domestic abuse. If you are in need of help I am here to help you.

Please do not hesitate to call our crisis line at 1-800-236-7660.

Or if you would prefer anonymity feel free to comment and I will assist you in anyway I can.

Advocate Available

Hello, my name is Andrea and I have been a victim advocate at this program for nearly ten years now. I primarily work with victims of domestic violence and sexual assaults. I guess you could say that I specialize in legal advocacy, as I have worked through countless domestic violence and sexual assault trials through our local District Attorneys office. I have provided expert testimony in some pretty serious trials in the state of wisconsin. I also provide statewide education, law enforcement training, and I coordinate our local batterers program.

I just wanted to offer my assistance to anyone that may visit this site that may be in need of assistance, or may have questions that they want to ask. You can call the number provided here (we are a national referral networking program) or you can post a comment or send me a message at sa-advocate@hotmail.com.

I will do my best to assist you in anyway I possibly can. Thank you for visiting our site!

~Andrea

Tempoary Restraining Orders

TEMPORARY RESTRAINING ORDER There are four types of Restraining orders 1.Domestic Abuse. 2. Harassment 3. Child Abuse. 4. Vulnerable Adult. A Temporary Restraining Order is a protection order by the court to provide immediate temporary relief to ensure safety. What type of relationship? The petitioner and the respondent are adult family members (spouse, parent, or person related by blood or adoption) or former spouse; adult with whom person has a child in common; adult with whom petitioner has or had a dating relationship (romantic and/or intimate social relationship); respondent is an adult caregiver to the adult petitioner and also, an adult guardian of a vulnerable adult may file for the petitioner if petitioner and respondent have one of the above relationships. What kind of crime? Intentional infliction of physical pain, injury or illness, intentional impairment of physical condition or violation of 1^st, 2^nd or 3^rd degree sexual assault, or damage to petitioner’s property that threat to engage in any of the above four behaviors/conduct. In addition, the TRO must allege imminent danger of harm. Where do I file? Call the Women’s Thunderbird House for more information

National Hotlines & Crisis Line & Rights

SOME CURRENT RIGHTS AS A VICTIM

As a victim of a crime, Wisconsin Law provides you with the following rights:

• apply for victim of crime compensation
• receive written information from law enforcement within 24 hours of alleged crime and offender
• be informed of your rights and how to exercise them
• contact information in regards to the offender in custody
• speak with the prosecutor
• attend court proceedings
• be contacted about the right to make a statement at the disposition and/or sentencing
• have the impact of the crime included in a pre-sentencing investigation
• be notified if a prisoner is released

CONTACTS

COURTS:

Tribal Court

Lac du Flambeau, WI

(715) 533-4200

Vilas County Court House

Eagle River, WI

(715) 479-3600

Oneida County Court District

Rhinelander, WI

715-369-6120

POLICE:

Tribal Police

Lac du Flambeau, WI

(715) 588-7717

Vilas County Sheriff’s Department

Eagle River, WI

(715) 479- 4441

Oneida County Sheriff’s Department

Rhinelander, WI

715-361-5100

NATIONAL HOTLINES:

National Organization for Victim Assistance 1-800-TRY-NOVA

Crime Victim Compensation Program

1-800-446-6564

National Domestic Abuse Hotline

1-800-799-7233

Thunder Bird House

1-800-236-7660

About Us

The Thunder Bird House is a non-profit organization comprised of professional people trained to advocate and guide victims of assault and abuse. We will respond to your emotional and physical needs (excluding medical care) of crime victims such as intervention; accompaniment to hospitals for medical examinations; hot-line counseling at 1-800-236-7660; emergency food; clothing; transportation; shelter; emergency legal assistance; and other emergency services that are intended to restore the victim’s sense of dignity and self-esteem