The Mystery

Authored By Lundy Bancroft
Book Title: WHY DOES HE DO THAT?

LISTEN TO THE VOICES OF THESE WOMEN:
He’s two different people. I feel like I’m living with Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde.
He really doesn’t mean to hurt me. He loses control.
Everyone else think’s he’s great. I don’t know what it is about me that set’s him off.
He’s fine when he’s sober. But when he’s drunk, watch out.
I feel like he’s never happy with anything I do.
He’s scared me a few times, but never touches the children. He’s a great father.
He calls me disgusting names, and then an hour later he wants sex. I don’t get it.
He messes up my mind sometimes.
The thing is, he really understands me.
Why does he do that?
These are the words of women who are describing their anxiety and inner conflict about their relationships. Each of these women knows that something is wrong-very wrong-but she can’t put her finger on what it is. Every time she thinks she’s got her partner figured out, that she finally understands what is bothering him, something new happens, something changes. The pieces refuse to fit together.
Each of these women is trying to make sense out of the roller-coaster ride that her relationship has become.

National Crime Victims’ Rights Week April 26–May 2

Promote Awareness of Victims’ Rights and Needs

National Crime Victims’ Rights Week (NCVRW), to be held April 26–May 2 this year, has been set aside since 1981 to honor crime victims and the advocates, counselors, and others who assist victims in their time of need, and the law enforcement personnel who work to bring offenders to justice.

With this year’s theme, “25 Years of Rebuilding Lives: Celebrating the Victims of Crime Act,” the Office for Victims of Crime (OVC) celebrates the landmark Victims of Crime Act, which laid the groundwork for our field. Candlelight vigils, presentations about the impact victims have had on the field, and numerous community service projects are being held throughout the Nation this week.

Even prior to NCVRW, special events are held throughout April across the country to honor victims of crime and raise awareness of victims’ rights and issues. Visit the OVC National Calendar of Crime Victim Assistance-Related Events to learn about commemorative events occurring in your area. OVC encourages you to promote NCVRW by downloading and displaying our Web banner ads on your Web site. Visit the banner gallery to choose your favorite and link it to the OVC NCVRW Web page.
Visit the NCVRW Web site for a full schedule of the week’s events and general resources available for your local activities. Then, keep watching for the opportunity—coming this summer—to nominate individuals for next year’s National Crime Victims’ Service Awards.
Search OVC’s new NCVRW Award Recipient Gallery for photos and biographies of award honorees. Photos and biographies of the 2009 award winners will be posted later this week. The Award Recipient Gallery is a component of the larger OVC Gallery of multimedia products promoting crime victims’ rights and services.
To learn more about victims’ rights, visit www.crimevictims.gov. By working together, we can help protect crime victims and build a society that respects the life and value of every person.

TRIBAL NATIONS BEING SEATED AT THE UNITED NATIONS AS FULL VOTING MEMBERS.

President Barack Obama is considering
allowing a representative from each tribal nation located within the United States to have a seat at the United
Nations (U.N.) as full voting members in a decision that has taken the world by surprise. The plan would allow each indigenous Red Indian Nation currently referred to as
tribes? or bands to have a voice in international decisions regarding global peace and policy at U.N.
Headquarters in New York City and once and for all join the community of world as nations. Currently, tribes aredenied access to such a body, having been victims of over
518 years of a relatively unknown genocide? that the sponsor of such, the U.S. government who remain virtually in control on U.N. decision-making and veto power , was never too eager to reveal. The possible
decision would startle unprepared tribes and tribal councils as they would scramble to appear Nation-like? as they decide which national citizen would travel to New York to serve their nation on such a seat. Indigenous people anticipated change in governmental affairs once the
first Black African became president a fellow person of color, and wondered if the Obama administration would force their government to honor Treaties, that are supposed to
be protected from violation through Article VI of the United States Constitution. There was also great
concern from Indigenous activists that the government had
previously given Israel the occupying entity of nation of Palestine, over $40 billion per year in order to secure
the country as a base for Britain and U.S. oil removal from the region. Indians felt that while American troops now simply occupy Iraq in the heart of oil country, the need for the concocted state of Israel is not necessary, and American Indian tribes could instead receive the $40
billion in lieu of Treaty violations and as retribution for resources stolen from Indians by the U.S. since 1492.
Currently, tribes receive approximately $2 billion from
the government for programs and administrative costs. Allowing the voice of the Red Man into world affairs through U.N. full membership, voting, and possibly veto-power seats is a first step to recognizing Indigenous people as peoples and as true members of the human race.
The qualifications for membership in the U.N. as a nation,Tribal Nations > must have:
1) Their own language
2) Their own land
3) Their own culture or way of life
Currently, of all the
races of humankind, the white, black, brown, and yellow,
only the Red Race is denied a seat in the United Nations.
 SUPPORT, SIGN and DISTRIBUTE: GO TO >
http://www.thepetitionsite.com/1/obama-may-allow-indians-in-un

Searcher “Do abusers love their victims?”

This is my response to the searcher who ask the above.
Abusers are MASTERS of deception,
“All deception in the course of life is indeed nothing else but a lie reduced to practice, and falsehood passing from words into things.”
Author: Robert Southey, manipulation, “For I have sworn thee fair, and thought thee bright, who art as black as hell, as dark as night.”
Author: William Shakespeare, and the only love they feel is for themselves and their property.
HOW CAN YOU LOVE THE THING YOU COVET AND AT THE SAME TIME BEGRUDGE THEIR HUMANITY?
What do I mean by humanity…..the gifts bestowed you by your creator….your gift of sight that views beauty in another human being or creation, the gift of touch that makes you spontaneously reach out to touch another human being, the gift of scent or the gift of sound. He/she is with out fault but you may have many, it is human to have fault is it not?

THE DEFINITION OF LOVE.
by Andrew Marvell

I.
MY Love is of a birth as rare
As ’tis, for object, strange and high ;
It was begotten by Despair,
Upon Impossibility.

II.
Magnanimous Despair alone
Could show me so divine a thing,
Where feeble hope could ne’er have flown,
But vainly flapped its tinsel wing.

III.
And yet I quickly might arrive
Where my extended soul is fixed ;
But Fate does iron wedges drive,
And always crowds itself betwixt.

IV.
For Fate with jealous eye does see
Two perfect loves, nor lets them close ;
Their union would her ruin be,
And her tyrannic power depose.

V.
And therefore her decrees of steel
Us as the distant poles have placed,
(Though Love’s whole world on us doth wheel),
Not by themselves to be embraced,

VI.
Unless the giddy heaven fall,
And earth some new convulsion tear.
And, us to join, the world should all
Be cramp’d into a planisphere.

VII.
As lines, so love’s oblique, may well
Themselves in every angle greet :
But ours, so truly parallel,
Though infinite, can never meet.

VIII.
Therefore the love which us doth bind,
But Fate so enviously debars,
Is the conjunction of the mind,
And opposition of the stars.

Source:
Marvell, Andrew. The Poems of Andrew Marvell.
G. A. Aitken, Ed. London: Lawrence & Bullen, 1892. 73-74.

PROPERTY HAS NO HUMAN VALUE!

This is an interesting quote it is uncanny that most abusers deny that they are abusive.
“It is twice the pleasure to deceive the deceiver.”
Author: Jean De La Fontaine

Two Men Plead Guilty in Unrelated Red Lake Assault Cases

For Immediate Release
April 3, 2009 Frank J. Magill, United States Attorney
District of Minnesota
(612) 664-5600

Two Red Lake men recently pleaded guilty in federal court in unrelated cases involving assaults on the Red Lake Indian Reservation.

In the first case, Ronald Dean Oakgrove Sr., 42, pleaded guilty to one count of assault resulting in serious bodily injury. Oakgrove entered his plea today in Minneapolis before United States District Court Judge John Tunheim. Oakgrove was charged on Jan. 13, 2009.

According to Oakgrove’s plea agreement, he admitted that on Dec.15, 2008, he assaulted a victim and also admitted that he poured scalding water and food upon the victim’s head, neck, shoulders and arms. As a result of the assault, the victim suffered extreme physical pain.

According to a Federal Bureau of Investigation affidavit, on Dec. 15 Oakgrove grabbed a pot of boiling water, grease and beef, and dumped it over the victim’s head. Oakgrove then left the residence saying, “I hope you die!”

The victim was treated for third-degree burn injuries to her head, shoulders, arms and back. Oakgrove was arrested Dec. 16 by the Red Lake Police Department.

Oakgrove faces a potential maximum penalty of 10 years in prison. Judge Tunheim will determine Oakgrove’s sentence at a future date. This case is the result of an investigation by the FBI and the Red Lake Police Department, and is being prosecuted by Assistant U.S. Attorney Clifford B. Wardlaw.

In the second case, Keith Michael Beaulieu, 26, pleaded guilty to one count of assault with a dangerous weapon. He entered his plea on April 2 in Minneapolis before Judge Tunheim. Beaulieu was charged on Dec. 16, 2008.

According to Beaulieu’s plea agreement, he admitted that on March 24, 2008, he did assault an adult female by driving a car into a car driven by the victim and forcing her vehicle off the road into a ditch.

Beaulieu faces a potential maximum penalty of 10 years in prison. Judge Tunheim will determine Beaulieu’s sentence at a future date. This case is the result of an investigation by the Red Lake Police Department and the Federal Bureau of Investigation. It is also being prosecuted by Assistant U.S. Attorney Wardlaw.

Breaking the Silence

You are sincerely revered and honored by me……thank-you!

Breaking the Silence

I was abducted, beaten and raped by a stranger. It wasn’t a neighbor, a coach, a relative, a family friend or teacher. It was a recidivist pedophile predator who spent time in prison for previous sex crimes; an animal hunting for victims in the quiet, bucolic, suburban neighborhoods of Lincoln, Rhode Island.

I was able to identify the guy and the car he was driving. Although he was arrested that night and indicted a few months later, he never went to trial. His trial never took place because he was brutally beaten to death in Providence before his court date. 34 years later, no one has ever been charged with the crime.

In the time between the night of my assault and the night he was murdered, I lived in fear. I was afraid he was still around town. Afraid he was looking for me. Afraid he would track me down and kill me. The fear didn’t go away when he was murdered. Although he was no longer a threat, the simple life and innocence of a 14-year-old boy was gone forever. Carefree childhood thoughts replaced with the unrelenting realization that my world wasn’t a safe place. My peace shattered by a horrific criminal act of sexual violence.

Over the past 34 years, I’ve been haunted by horrible, recurring memories of what he did to me. He visits me in my sleep. There have been dreams–nightmares actually–dozens of them, sweat inducing, yelling-in-my-sleep nightmares filled with images and emotions as real as they were when it actually happened. It doesn’t get easier over time. Long dead, he still visits me, silently sneaking up from out of nowhere when I least expect it. From the grave, he sits by my side on the couch every time the evening news reports a child abduction or sex crime. I don’t watch America’s Most Wanted or Law and Order SVU, because the stories are a catalyst, triggering long suppressed emotions, feelings, memories, fear and horror. Real life horror stories rip painful suppressed memories out from where they hide, from that recessed place in my brain that stores dark, dangerous, horrible memories. It happened when William Bonin confessed to abducting, raping and murdering 14 boys in California; when Jesse Timmendequas raped and murdered Megan Kanka in New Jersey; when Ben Ownby, missing for four days, and Shawn Hornbeck, missing for four years, were recovered in Missouri.

Despite what happened that night and the constant reminders that continue to haunt me years later, I wouldn’t change what happened. The animal that attacked me was a serial predator, a violent pedophile trolling my neighborhood in Lincoln, Rhode Island looking for young boys. He beat me, raped me, and I stayed alive. I lived to see him arrested, indicted and murdered. It might not have turned out this way if he had grabbed one of my friends or another kid from my neighborhood. Perhaps he’d still be alive. Perhaps there would be dozens of more victims and perhaps he would have progressed to the point of silencing his victims by murdering them.
Out of fear, shame and guilt, I’ve been silent for over three decades, not sharing with anyone the story of what happened to me. No more. The silence has to end. The fear, the shame, the guilt have to go. It’s time to stop keeping this secret from the people closest to me, people I care about, people I love, my long-time friends and my family. It’s time to speak out to raise public awareness of male sexual assault, to let other victims know that they’re not alone and to help victims of rape and violent crime understand that the emotion, fear and memories that may still haunt them are not uncommon to those of us who have shared a similar experience.

For those who suffer with the memories, I hope my story brings some comfort, peace and hope. To those who suffer in silence, I pray you find the strength to speak out.

My story has just been released as a novel, Men in My Town, available now on Amazon.com.

More info is available at the Men in My Town Blog at http://www.meninmytown.wordpress.com

Sexual Assault Boys to Men

I recently listened to a story from an Indian man who is a survivor and is encouraging other men to speak up about the sexual abuse they have suffered in their lives.
He is doing this for several reasons, most importantly it is breaking the silence, and the road to healing can begin. Another reason is that perpetrators may be held accountable and other young boys may be saved from the same abuse.
It is harder for males to admit they have been victimized sexually by other males for reasons we as a society play a role in. First of all, there is a stink about homosexuality that permeates this country and the world. This stench denies male victims justice, for fear of social ostracism. Secondly, society has equated masculinity to strength as in not having human emotions and the main perpetrators of this is men themselves. Myself, as a women, witnessing a man showing human emotion attribute this to integrity and balance. Lastly, we as women and mother’s of both sexes, male and female are not acknowledging these issues exist and our children are suffering and most likely will die or commit suicide with this socially perpetrated injustice. Following is an article to prove my point further:
Milwaukee Journal Sentinel
April 1, 2009
“Trail of Tears”
Police are digging into two possible suicides, a drug death and the molestation of at least 28 boys.
TRACKING ACKER’S TRAIL
By Tom Kertscher
GREENFIELD, WI– At least one and possibly two of Daniel Acker’s suspected victims committed suicide and a third died because of complications from drug use, according to the police official who is supervising the Acker investigation.
And Greenfield police now believe that Acker, 61, a longtime West Allis resident before moving to Waukesha last year, molested at least 28 boys.
In an hour long interview Tuesday with the Journal Sentinel, Deputy Inspector Bradley Wentlandt retraced the “trail of tears” detectives have followed in their investigation, which could reach a pivotal stage this week.
And he detailed how Acker, who is suspected of assaulting boys in his homes, on the lakefront, in a park and elsewhere, managed to cloak his actions over four decades.
“I guess you could say that over time, he got better at it,” Wentlandt said.
Prosecutors have charged Acker with a 2005 assault on a boy who is now 19 and are expected to decide this week whether to file charges involving two other suspected victims.
In an interview Sunday from jail, where Acker admitted to “weaknesses,” and “poor choices” but denied having sexual relations with boys.
Greenfield police are investigating the case because on of Acker’s accuser’s, a man now in his 40’s said he was molested by Acker in Greenfield in the 1970’s.
Wentlandt said the man reported the alleged assaults in a voice mail message left march 19 with West Allis-West Milwaukee Recreation Department, which has employed Acker as a part-time swim instructor for 37 years.
Wentlandt said a supervisor of that department spoke to the man the same day, then informed Greenfield Police March 23 Acker was arrested that day while teaching a youth swim class in West Allis.
Wentlandt said he didn’t know why the supervisor waited four days to make the report but doesn’t believe the delay hampered investigation.
Since then, more than 100 people have spoken to investigators. Police say the 28 males they have identified as victims were molested by Acker between 1972 and 2005.
The boys generally were between the ages of 7 and 15 when they were abused, although some continued to be molested into their later teen years, according to Wentlandt.
The assaults occurred over the years at Acker’s homes, first in Greenfield and later on the northwest side of Milwaukee and in West Allis, where he lived from 1990 to 2008, Wentlandt said.
Acker also molested boys at Whitnall Park, near Like Michigan, in Eagle River and in Waterford in Racine County, Wentlandt said.
Acker met the boys from among the literally thousands of children who took his swim classes, through a previous job working at the Milwaukee County Mental Health Complex and through other people, Wentlandt said.
Acker befriended boys from troubled families, bought them things and took them places, let them hang out at his home and sometimes gave them alcohol and marijuana.
After a period of months, he would ask the boys if he could take nude pictures of them; later he would touch them sexually.
Some of the boys refused to be photographed nude and never saw Acker again, but others-thankful for the attention Acker showed them-succumbed to indecent touching and eventually to more advanced sexual activity, Wentlandt said.
“They’re already being assaulted before they know what happened,” Wentlandt said.
“I GUESS YOU COULD SAY OVER TIME HE (Acker) GOT BETTER AT IT.”
One of the suspected victims committed suicide as an adult, another death is considered a possible suicide and a third died from complications stemming from drug use, Wentlandt said. He said relatives of the drug user tied the drug use to Acker’s suspected assaults.
Other men identified as Acker’s victims suffer from broken marriages and can’t hold jobs, Wentlandt said.
Even though the number of suspected victims has reached 28, it is not known whether police will be able to seek charges involving more than the three cases already submitted to the district attorney’s office.
In 15 of the cases, the alleged abuse would have occurred before 1989, beyond the statute of limitations. In 10 cases the suspected victims were unable or unwilling to provide enough information.
Equally frustrating is the belief that Acker likely continued molesting boys after 2005, the year of the assault involving the 19-year-old, Wentlandt said.
But Wentlandt said he understands, having witnessed the anguish of men in their 30’s and 40’s recounting their allegations of abuse by Acker, how a teen molested more recently would not come forward. Victims often feel a stigma about having been abused, believe they somehow consented to it or fear being labeled homosexual, he said.
“I can’t imagine how a 14 year old boy would feel in the same circumstances” said Wentlandt.
Despite police allegations that Acker committed hundreds of attacks, neither West Allis nor Greenfield police have records of any prior reports of abuse by Acker. Milwaukee police said they have no record of any other contact with him.
After his arrest, Acker would not volunteer any information about sexual contact with boys, Wentlandt said.
But after being confronted with the details about the 19 year old and about five other victims from the 1970s, he admitted to assaults involving these boys, Wentlandt said.
Wentlandt said he hoped to exhaust most leads this week and then turn over information to other law enforcement authorities about alleged assaults in their communities.
As a mother and a tribal victim advocate I am pleading with you boys and men to break your silence and bring these perpetrators to justice so we may can put a stop to this on our lands!

How to avoid becoming a spear phishing victim.

Law enforcement takes this kind of crime seriously, and we in the FBI work cyber investigations with our partners, including the U.S. Secret Service and investigative agencies within the Department of Defense. But what can you do to make sure you don’t end up a victim in one of our cases?

• Keep in mind that most companies, banks, agencies, etc., don’t request personal information via e-mail. If in doubt, give them a call (but don’t use the phone number contained in the e-mail—that’s usually phony as well).
• Use a phishing filter…many of the latest web browsers have them built in or offer them as plug-ins.
• Never follow a link to a secure site from an e-mail—always enter the URL manually.
• Don’t be fooled (especially today) by the latest scams. Visit the Internet Crime Complaint Center (IC3) and “LooksTooGoodToBeTrue” websites for tips and informatio