What You can Do if a Child Discloses Sexual Assault to You

• BELIEVE THE CHILD!!!
  
• Respond calmly and in a “matter of fact” style
• DO NOT ask leading questions (Leave that to a child forensic interviewer)
• Ask simply: Who What When Where?
• Tell the child you will get them help
• Call Child Protective Services, Indian Child Welfare and or Law Enforcement.

A Sane nurse is not always especially equipped to do a sexual assault exam on a child. REMEMBER THE ASSAULT WILL CONTINUE IF YOUR CHILD SEXUAL ASSAULT VICTIM IS FORENSICALLY NOT HANDLED BY QUALIFIED SPECIALIST.

Signs of Sexual Assault

Physical Evidence

Difficulty Going To The Bathroom

Blood of Semen on the child’s diaper or clothing.

Unexplained lesions in genital and or anal area.

Presence of sexually transmitted diseases (STDs)

Frequent vaginal infections

• Behavioral changes
• Failure to thrive
• Extreme change in mood, grades, social interactions
• Loss of appetite
• Fear of being left alone with someone
• Mental health deterioration, Suicidal tendencies
• Age inappropriate knowledge of Sexual Behaviors
• Sexualized behaviors
• Poor body image and or self esteem
• Self mutilation
• Delinquency
• At risk behaviors

Child Sexual Assault Myths and Facts

WCADV Beth Balo

• MYTH: Child Sexual Assault is most often committed by strangers.
• FACT: Over 90% of child sexual assault victims know their abuser.
• MYTH: Child Sexual Assault is a rare occurrence.
• FACT: 1 in 4 females and 1 in 7 males will be sexually assaulted before the age of 18.
• MYTH: The average age of the onset of child sexual assault is 6-8 years of age.
• FACT: The average age of sexual assault to a boy is 4.
• FACT: The average age of trafficking a child is 9
• MYTH: You can tell a sex offender be looking at him/her.
• FACT: Sex offenders come from all walks of life, can be male or female, all age groups.

FRIGHTENING NUMBERS

• CHILDREN UNDER THE AGE OF 12 COMPRISE 46% OF THE CASES OF FORCIBLE RAPE IN THE UNITED STATES EACH YEAR.
• 88% of the incidents of child sexual assault go UNREPORTED.
• The FBI reports that only 2% of reported child sexual assault cases are false.

ALWAYS…ALWAYS….BELIEVE THE CHILD FIRST!

Father, son indicted in prostitution case

Milwaukee Journal Sentinel
Thursday, February 26, 2009

A federal grand jury indicted a father and son from Milwaukee on counts of prostituting teenagers here and across state lines, according to court documents.
Todd “King Tut” Carter,38, and his son, Nicholas Harrison, 19, were indicted Tuesday.
Each is charged with conspiracy and three counts of trafficking minors. Additionally, Carter was indicted of two counts of enticing a minor.
According to court documents, Carter has been a pimp for 20 years and more recently used his son to recruit girls to be prostitutes because he was closer to their age.
Carter required teens to have sex with him first as “training,” and then he would arrange for them to engage in prostitution, often advertising on Craigslist……,Carter was denied bail.
If convicted, the men face the possibility of life in prison.
TEENAGER, GIRLS-BOYS-YOUNG PEOPLE-IF SOMEONE IS HURTING YOU OR HAS YOU WHERE YOU DON’T WANT TO BE……CLICK AND GIVE ME A CLUE SOME CONTACT INFORMATION….A PLEA FOR HELP…AN IDEA OF HOW TO FIND AND HELP YOU. I WILL FIND YOU!

Bill aims to curtail use of Indian Logos

Schools would be fined for symbols judged offensive.

Associated Press
Milwaukee Journal Sentinel
Tuesday February 24, 2009

The bill calls for the state Department of Public Instruction to investigate complaints about race based names, nicknames, logos or mascots.
School boards would have a chance to argue the logos or mascots don’t discriminate or amount to harassment or stereotyping.
“It’s 2009. It’s time we put this behind us. It’s the Native American’s heritage first and foremost. If they’re not feeling honored, then it’s time to get rid of it,” said the bill’s author, Rep. Jim Soletski (D-Green Bay).
I could use the term (SQUAW) being taken off of our roads, lakes and highways, also. This is a term that non-Indians used to imply vagina’s when they spoke of Native American Women.

When Teen Dating Turns Violent

Chicago Tribune
Friday February 20,2008
By Megan Twohey and Bonnie Miller Rubin

1 in 10 teens suffer abuse in romantic relationships, and many think it’s often justified.
Two of three programs created by the federal Violence Against Women Act in 2005 to address teen dating violence were never funded.
“This incident has brought the issue into sharp focus.” said Esta Solar president of the California based Family Violence Prevention Fund. “This type of education is not happening in any broad or consistent way. We need to take it to a scale, to make sure it’s happening in every community.”

Warning Signs Sources of Help
Signs of an abusive relationship
1. Your boyfriend or girlfriend: hits, slaps,pushes or kicks you.
2.Controls where you go, what you wear and what you do.
3.Tries to stop you from seeing or talking to family of friends.
4. Calls you derogatory names.
5. Sends repeated text messages.
6. Forces you to do something sexual when you don’t want to.
Signs that your friend or child may be in an abusive relationship.
1. Apologizes for his or her behavior and/or makes excuses for them.
2. Frequently cancels plans at the last minute for reasons that sound untrue.
3. Seems worried about upsetting him or her and making them angry.
4. Giving up things that used to be important to him or her and becoming increasingly isolated.
5. Weight, appearance or grades have changed dramatically. These could be signs of depression, which could indicate abuse.
6. Injuries that he or she cannot explain, or the explanations given don’t make sense.

Cyber sex case stumps parents

Milwaukee Journal Sentinel
By Erin Richards
2/6/09

Since Anthony Stancl former New Berlin Eisenhower High School student was charged Wednesday facing charges for using facebook to sexually assault peers.
Stancl, 18 was charged by Waukesha County district attorney Wednesday with posing as a female on facebook, a social networking site, persuading at least 31 teenage boys from Eisenhower to send him nude photos of themselves and the threaten to release those pictures to the public unless the victims agreed to perform sex acts with him.

Milwaukee Journal Sentinel
by Jacqui Seibel
2/7/09
The Waukesha County district attorney said Friday that he hopes to prosecute without having to call victims on stand……”For child victims of sexual abuse, we have to find a way so they don’t have to relive this in the courtroom,” District Attorney Brad Schilmel said.
Authorities think there was more boys but no more have come forward, the boys ages were from age 13 to 19…..about 300 photo’s were found on Stencl’s computer.
PARENTS TALK TO YOUR CHILDREN!
GET CYBER SMART!
TEENAGERS GET CYBER SMART!
REPORT CYBER SEXUAL PREDATORS THE LINKS ARE UNDER THE BLOGROLL.
STOP SENDING NUDE PHOTO’S INTO CYBERSPACE.

Boarding Schools

Assimilation policies also took the form of mandatory boarding schools, with devastating consequences that continue to reverberate today through out Indian Country. It is believed that the prevalence of Indian-on-Indian domestic and sexual violence in Native communities is rooted in the forced removal of Indian children from their homes and from their families and Tribes into religious and government-operated boarding schools.  I must add that some of the boarding schools were run by the military, for instance the Fort Totten Boarding School in North Dakota. This boarding school had grey nuns from Canada that were established on site and housed children from the age of five, forcibly taken from their families. The school it self is still standing today. Under the school is dirt sellers with bars where children were placed in solitary confinement.  Twenty inch paths from dorm to classrooms were patrolled by military on horseback carrying crops to keep children on the beaten path. Apache women had their garments adapted  (skirts) made wide and large, to attempt to hide their children from agents.

From 1879 through the 1950s,  more that 300 boarding schools across the county taught lessons of self hate, domestic and sexual abuse, gender stereotypes and patriarchal norms to Native children forced or coerced into attending the schools.

Children attending the boarding schools were not permitted to see their families, speak their own language, or follow their cultural practices or traditional religion, the children were expected to  stay for a minimum of four years.

It is believed thst the prevalence of Indian-on-Indian domestic and sexual assault in Native communities is rooted in the forced removal of Indian from their homes and from their families and tribes and into religious snd government-operated boarding schools. -Felix S. Cohen

Felix Solomon Cohen (July 3, 1907 – October 19, 1953) was a lawyer and scholar who made a lasting mark on legal philosophy and fundamentally shaped federal Indian law and policy.

Cohen was the drafter of the centerpiece legislation of this era, the 1934 Indian Reorganization Act. In 1939 he became Chief of the Indian Law Survey, an effort to compile the federal laws and treaties regarding American Indians. The resulting book, published in 1941 as The Handbook of Federal Indian Law.

The trauma suffered from boarding school survivors is expressed today in substance abuse,  suicide, domestic violence,  pedophelia, sexual assault, and being passed on to further generations.

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